How to stop enabling a drug addict?
Question by Robert E. Lee: How to stop enabling a drug addict?
So my father is a drug addict but yet my mother and myself continue to enable him. Every time he goes out of a binge and spends every dime we have, we still allow him to come back to our home and enable him by providing food and shelter. This has been going on the past 4 years and even though my mother has finally taken a stand against him, tonight he came back from a binge and yet I can’t stop enabling. My mother has gave him 3 days to get out and refuses to talk to him but yet I snuck upstairs and brought him some food and water. Was this wrong? I don’t know how to stop this, I feel so guilty about being so cold even though he has done many horrible things to my family. Any help please.
I wish it wasn’t so hard to just “cut the ties”. He’s not even my real father, he’s my step-dad but my real father had this same problem and I haven’t seen him in over 7 years. I keep thinking it’s my fault that all of my father figures go off and do drugs. Maybe this is the reason for my enabling? It seems like we’ve put him through every drug treatment possible, we’re out of options but I feel bad about kicking him onto the streets.